It has been three and a half months since I lost my oldest son. Yes the grief is still very raw however it has allowed me to see who my supporters are and affirm my doubts of who I thought would surly be there. If you know someone that has suffered a great loss take a meal, pick the phone up and call or send a card. Do not let your inability to know what to say stop you from letting them feel how important they are to you and how much you love them. Lets be honest there is nothing you can say to lessen their pain or bring back that loved one. However , a simple "I love you " , " could you use some company right now?" and a provided meal can speak volumes at the end of a hard day for a person in grief. Let me say this Facebook does not count!!! Get off your ass and find the time to make a personal effort. Facebook is okay to post your kids birthday pictures, yard sale pictures and wedding pictures. It is okay to announce events and swoon and brag on your kids accomplishments on Facebook. To think that it is a substitute for "checking in on people you love and keeping up with them , is depressing. We can find time to binge Netflix, Prime and you tube. We can find time to go on vacation , shop and play bejeweled and spider solitaire on our phones and computers. These are for our entertainment and consume a lot of our time. I have been guilty . These activities do not require us to give of ourselves or our time and it shows in our families and in the world. We make time for what we think is important.
Last night I attended a memorial service given by Powers Funeral home of the families they had served this year. There was over 500 people remembered and my Son was one of them. This is one funeral home in our county. It was sobering at how death does not discriminate. Time is not promised, how are you spending yours. Are you making it count?
Love to you all,
Sheryl
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