I have learned a lot about God's grace and love and the unconditional love of a mother with this young man. I have also had to make it a daily prayer that I do not become impatient with others because their complaints I wish I had. Anyway...About two years ago We had an ordeal with Joe. We spent 51 days at the children's Hospital 45 of those days in the ICU. When you spend that much time in a Hospital you have the privilege of meeting all kinds of people. I want to share with you the epiphany that God laid on me while a Holiness Faith group was praying for my son. The prayer was along these lines: Complete healing ..to make his legs work to heal his spine to make him perfect and whole. This prayer was a good 15-20 min. and to me prayed with great fervor and love however with not much understanding. I was somewhat offended at the implication that my son was seen as not whole or perfect. When they were done praying they stood there before me grinning like children, that finally passed their multiplication tables test, wanting my approval and admiration. God Gently took over mouth and all I could say: "Thank you for your prayers I appreciate your kind words however, I want to give you something to think about. God made my son the way he is ,weather or not you want to say he allowed him to be that way, or made him that way. Either way he had His mighty hand in it. My and your definition of perfect fall far from God's and in his eyes my son is perfect as are all children that are ..oh help me I am going to say it....Different. I am not going to question his grand plan nor ask that he change it. I am only going to trust in him and ask that he keep my heart and mind open to see and meet his expectations of me." I am not de-powering the power of prayer. Prayer is a mighty weapon in the believers arsenal and lets all pray. I just have learned that somethings are just meant to be and I accept that. I also have accepted that those things that are the most difficult I pray that I see and feel God's strength with out it we are just treading water never to reach the shore of rest and Joy.